Jim Donohue, pastor at Covenant Fellowship Church (Glen Mills, PA), recently wrote a blog post on our Church Development site about making sure that we’re seeing people. He writes, “God is calling us to be like Jesus and look at people—to reach out and connect. As Christians, we have the most amazing news in the world and it is news that we simply can’t keep to ourselves. We are called to love this lost world with the good news of the gospel.” The article is a good reminder of our calling as Christians—even in a pandemic ridden world! You can read the whole article here.
Among our 7 Shared Values is the value of “ Church Planting, Outreach and Global Mission.” It states: “Our gospel-centrality entails no only treasuring the gospel personally but sharing it passionately. The risen Christ commissioned His church to make disciples of all nations (Matthew 28:18-20). We believe that commission falls to us and to all believers and that it is fulfilled in a primary way through church planting, whereby the gospel is proclaimed and converts are formed into communities of disciples (Acts 2:21-47; 14:23).” It’s woven into our DNA—we are always thinking about church planting because we are committed to this glorious shared mission.
In the fall of 2018, one of our local churches, Covenant Fellowship Church, planted a church about 45 min away in Newark, DE. Redeemer Fellowship started with 27 adults and has since grown. Our newest mission video tells the story of Colby who was born again because Redeemer Fellowship was faithful to warmly welcome him, and share the gospel with him. When you watch, be reminded that while this is the work of Christ alone, he used the care and labors of gospel loving people to passionately proclaim the name of Christ. I hope your heart will be stirred towards gospel mission!
We are grateful for every opportunity to reach the lost. May we all be reminded that our world needs to hear the hope of the gospel. May we be reminded that we are surrounded by Colby’s who are impacted by simple greetings and the care of patient listening. And may we be reminded that Christ has always at work around us, in us and through us. What a glorious Savior! What a glorious mission!
Mark Prater is the Executive Director for Sovereign Grace and serves as an elder at Covenant Fellowship Church. He and his wife, Jill, have three married daughters and a growing number of grandchildren.
The Bible is sufficient for all of life, at all times, even in the midst of a global pandemic. God is good to tell us what to do in tribulation, like the COVID-19 pandemic we are all walking through together. God tells us in Romans 12 to “Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer” (Rom. 12:12, ESV).
Being constant in prayer sounds like a good thing to do right now. Therefore, I’m asking the members and pastors of Sovereign Grace Churches to devote this Friday, April 3 to a Day of Prayer for Healthcare Professionals who are serving during the COVID-19 pandemic. These men and women are on the front lines, at the risk of their own health, to care for those who are sick. We, as a family of churches, thank God for them and the many sacrifices they are making. Here are a few ways you can join me in praying for the health care workers serving around the globe:
Ask God to protect them from contracting the COVID-19 virus as they care for the sick.
Ask God to strengthen them for the long hours they are working in hospitals and clinics.
Ask God to comfort them when they need to spend time separated from family and friends.
Ask God to provide the equipment, medicine, and supplies they need to care for those infected with the COVID-19 virus.
Ask God to encourage them especially during difficult and challenging days.
Ask God to use Christian health care workers to communicate the love of Christ to patients and co-workers looking for opportunities to share the hope of the gospel.
Thanks for being constant in prayer.
Mark Prater is the Executive Director for Sovereign Grace and serves as an elder at Covenant Fellowship Church. He and his wife, Jill, have three married daughters and a growing number of grandchildren.
Dear brothers,
I’m writing to thank you for the many ways you are laboring in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic to pastor, lead, and care for the members of your church. In God’s good sovereignty, He uses pandemics to reveal many things. As I hear about the ways that you are responding to the challenges the COVID-19 pandemic presents, my respect and appreciation for you has only increased. Here are some of the ways I see God is using this pandemic to reveal things about you, for which I thank God for.
This pandemic reveals your true calling as a pastor.
You are not men who are running away from this pandemic, rather, you are men who have run right into it with faith and courage. Your prayers, long hours, and the hard work you have done to serve your church reveal that you have been faithful, you have stayed at your post, and by God’s grace are even more resolved to pastor and protect your church. If you weren’t called, you would have quit. But you are men who have taken the people of your church by the hand and said to them, “fear not, for our God is with us.” (Isaiah 41:10) I thank God for how He is using this pandemic to reveal your true calling as a pastor.
This pandemic reveals your heart to shepherd the flock of God.
Peter exhorts us “shepherd the flock of God that is among you…” (1 Peter 5:2a) The necessary isolation this pandemic has produced reveals your heart to shepherd those among you who God has entrusted to your care. The frustration, pain, and burden you feel because you can’t be with your people only reveals the shepherd’s heart God has given you. The creative ways that you have used Zoom, Skype, phone calls, and texts to talk with your people, counsel your people, and pray with them all reveal a heart to shepherd the specific flock God has entrusted to your care. I thank God for how COVID-19 has revealed your heart to shepherd your flock.
This pandemic reveals your devotion to our ecclesiology.
COVID-19 has forced us to ask questions like, “How can we remain faithful to our ecclesiology and still pastor our people especially when we can’t gather together?” Just the fact that you are wrestling with that question reveals your devotion to continue to build your church on solid theological ground. You are men who don’t want to compromise all the entailments of corporate worship that we enjoy. I also believe that because you have been faithful to our ecclesiology, where you have taught the primacy of the local church, and the practice of gathering together every Sunday in particular, when this pandemic is over, you are going to see the fruit of what you have built for years. In other words, right now the members of your church are anticipating the day when you can all gather together because you have been faithful to our ecclesiology. I thank God for your devotion.
This pandemic reveals your commitment to our gospel partnership in Sovereign Grace.
Our interdependence to advance the gospel together is not only a New Testament reality, but also an important aspect of our culture in Sovereign Grace. We have always built relationally with one another, and God has used this pandemic to show us why we must continue to do so. I have been so encouraged to see our pastors sharing ideas and resources to help and strengthen one another. I’ve watched with joy as Sovereign Grace pastors reach out to one another, encourage one another, pray for one another, and care for one another. By God’s grace, we will endure, and even thrive, in this pandemic together because you are men who are committed to the gospel partnership we share. I thank God for your ongoing commitment.
These are just some of the ways that I see God using COVID-19 to reveal the good work He is doing in each of you. I don’t know if it’s appropriate for me to say this or not, but I’m going to say it anyway. I’m so proud of the pastors in Sovereign Grace! And I continue to count it a privilege to labor for the gospel alongside each of you.
“As for you, brothers, do not grow weary in doing good.” 2 Thessalonians 3:13
With my heart-felt appreciation,
Mark
Mark Prater is the Executive Director for Sovereign Grace and serves as an elder at Covenant Fellowship Church. He and his wife, Jill, have three married daughters and a growing number of grandchildren.
After dinner a few weeks ago, my wife graciously and privately pointed out that I tend to quickly devour my food without engaging the family as much as I should during the meal. I immediately replied by reminding her of the specific questions I asked the kids during dinner that night. I also described other ways I often engage the family before and after the meal, challenging her perspective before resting my case that I am indeed a paragon of thoughtful and selfless family engagement.
The whole situation demonstrated doubly that I have a communication problem: First, in how I interact at the dinner table, and second, how I respond when my wife shares input.
I am not alone in my communication problem in marriage. Whether your marriage is happy or hurting, every couple needs help communicating. How can we speak in ways that fit the occasion? How can we build up and give grace with our words, rather than tear down? How can we honor God in response to the weaknesses and sins of our spouse, or in the midst of conflict?
Rob Flood is a fellow pastor at Covenant Fellowship Church and a good friend. Many marriages in our church, including my own marriage, have benefited from his counsel over the years. Rob has written an excellent guide for communication in marriage called, With These Words: Five Communication Tools For Marriage and Life. I found the book so helpful that I gave a copy to each couple in our church family, as a way to strategically invest in marriages.
The book is shorter than most books on marriage, making it ideal for use in counseling and pastoral care. Each chapter has questions for discussion and reflection. Rob’s goal is not to set out a comprehensive understanding of marriage—there are other books that accomplish that goal. The unique value of With These Words is its focus on practical application and life change in communication. The case studies and stories throughout the book connect God’s truth to our marriages.
The five tools presented in the book are 1) First response (How to respond to sin and weakness in your spouse), 2) Prayer, 3) Physical touch, 4) Mirroring (Repeating in your own words what you understand your spouse to be saying), and 5) Proper timing.
There is much wisdom to be found in each chapter. For the couple experiencing conflict, Rob explains that “The course of a conflict is determined by the person who responds, not the one who initiates” (60). For the busy couple not communicating sufficiently, Rob encourages scheduling conversation: “Couples who don’t plan to communicate are not going to communicate well” (104). For the couple fixated on each others weaknesses and sins, Rob says that in order to honor the Lord in marriage and grow as God intends, “you will need to make Christ your goal, not fixing or judging or adjusting your spouse” (140).
If you feel distant from your spouse because of poor communication, you are not alone. If you have lost hope of improving communication with you spouse, don’t give up. If you, like me, have a communication problem and desire to grow, this book is for you. The gospel provides hope for power and change. Christ makes unity and closeness in marriage available as we humble ourselves, seek his glory, and apply God’s word. Do your marriage a favor and read this book.
Jared is the senior pastor of Covenant Fellowship Church in Glen Mills, PA, serves as the Regional Leader for the Northeast Region, and is a member of the SG Executive Committee. He is the author of Think Again: Relief from the Burden of Introspection as well as A Bright Tomorrow: How to Face the Future Without Fear. He resides in Glen Mills, PA with his wife Meghan and their six children.
I’ve always wanted to write a book on parenting. The dream has been real since before I had kids, but it was most alive when I had 4 kids under the age of 7. A short look at my family would have revealed a home where dad clearly knew what he was doing. I was a guy any wise person would want to learn from. That was my opportunity. I now have 6 kids ranging from 19 to 4 and the very last thing in the world I should do is write a book on parenting.
You’d think the added experience would further qualify me, but that would mean you don’t have older children. If you have older children, you’re not eager to write a book on parenting either. You see, books on parenting usually fall into one of two categories.
The first category provides the theology of parenting. It is so ethereal and aloof that it is of no earthly good. It speaks in such broad tones that no parent in the battle for the hearts of their children could put it to good use. These books are well-intended, I’m sure. Moreover, there is a time for them to be read. However, in the heat of the parenting battle, you need something grittier.
That’s the second category of parenting books. These are methodological books. They tell you how to parent. They seem wonderful because they answer all of your deepest and most troubling questions—that is until you try to apply them. When you do this, you realize that this book was written to teach parents everywhere how to parent the author’s children. They are significantly less helpful when applied to your children.
Of course, there have been notable exceptions to these two categories. These are likely the books that grace your shelves and are recommended by you to others. However, overall, the more I parent, the less I want to read about how to parent. That may surprise you, but it is undoubtedly true. No, the more I parent, the more I want to read books about God. I want to know more intimately the God who is bigger than my weaknesses and more powerful than my children’s sin. The more I parent, the more I want to read books like Parenting First Aid: Hope for the Discouraged by Marty Machowski.
This book does not tell you how to parent. It doesn’t provide parenting tips such as “5 Steps to a Happy Home.” It doesn’t promise to create compliant teenagers or even to work on our kids at all. This book is written with parents in mind: parents who sometimes (often) fail to see and believe God in their parenting struggles. This book is written with a parent like me in mind.
Parenting First Aid follows a well-crafted course of twenty chapters. Each chapter contains biblical teaching, followed by three days of devotions, each containing questions for discussion, prayer, and reflection. If digested slowly, it could take a reflective four months of time with a spouse. If done in a group, it could be 5, 10, or 20 weeks of fellowship. If the book is read front to back, it could take four hours. Allow me to recommend all of the above.
Why such a strong recommendation? There are many reasons, but the first is by far the most important. This book leaves the reader with a sense of God. Too often, parenting books leave you with a sense of failure. They can make you wish you had the author as a dad or a mom and that your kids did, too. This only takes the reader to hopelessness, which doesn’t help our parenting much at all.
Parenting First Aid leaves you with hope because it leaves you with God. It shows us how to embrace our weaknesses as parents in exchange for the great and precious promises of God. Allow me to present you with three paragraphs to serve your soul and provide a sampling of the book:
“Worry sprouts from the seeds of our doubts and fears. We doubt God’s goodness or we fear he won’t help us. Then we take life’s challenges into our own hands. And since we are not in sovereign control over all things, our only recourse is to worry. Worry robs you of sleep on both ends of the night. You can’t fall asleep for worry and as soon as you wake up, worry is ready to enslave you for another day of ‘anxious toil.’ Anxious toil is better know as spinning your wheels, trying to do what only God can do. The remedy for worry is repentance—we need to admit that we are not trusting God and to return to depending upon him in our weaknesses.” (p. 44-45)
“In those moments when we are not sure how to lead, we need to remember that God’s will is not a narrow path where all is lost if we miss making the right decision. It is just the opposite. God is so powerful that he works all things together for our good no matter what we decide. So discipline your son or show him mercy. Allow your daughter to go on the date or keep her home. Either way, in all these situations, as we thoughtfully try to discern the best choice, God is able to work all things together for your good.” (p. 116)
“When our children pack their bags and run from home, or reject God’s grace in their stubborn pride, we need not fear. Let us look to heaven and ask our sovereign Lord to release the trial he has composed for them, that they might return to him and us. While we wait and pray for their return, let us soak in the deep mercies God has extended to us through the cross so that when we are met with our son’s or daughter’s repentance, our response will match that of the father in the parable.” (p. 148)
Authorial genuineness drips from every page as this author has walked through the challenges about which he writes, which is not just insight a close friend has. Marty shares his story throughout the book, as well as other true stories of God’s faithfulness and mercy through challenges, failures, and disappointments. The picture painted throughout the book is one of reality. It is a challenging reality that all parents know. However, it is a glorious reality over which our holy and loving God is sovereign.
Pick up Parenting First Aid for your own family. Pick up copies for those in the midst of the struggle and promote this book to your church to strengthen their faith in God. You’ll find these lessons, if well applied, will spill over out of the context of parenting, leading the reader to live with greater faith in our great God in other areas of their lives as well.
Allow me to leave you with the words that conclude the book. Speaking of heaven, he says:
“While I don’t yet know the details that will fill the days between now and then, I do know the outcome—Jesus will be glorified and found faithful to the last.” (p. 259)
Indeed…and amen!
Rob Flood serves as the pastor responsible for the marriage ministry at Covenant Fellowship Church. Additionally, Rob carries responsibility for Leadership Training, Women’s Ministry, and shares in the counseling of the church. He lives in West Chester with his wife, Gina, and their six children.